This is a recent comment to the about section of the blog, and it is so close to so many guys, that I decided to break it down right on my blog and newsletter.
I have a question.
My girl and I have been together for 2 years. Pretty much everyday I heard “marry me”
You probably avoided this question, right? You started acting wishy washy about the whole subject and started looking like a man who couldn’t make a decision, instead of the leaders that men are supposed to be.
She just graduated collage and has freaked out about pretty much everything, including us.
You got this right, but I think you are missing the real reason WHY she freaked out.
You see, things started to get crazy. And when she started to freak out, she NEEDED a ROCK to fall back on. She needed someone to pick her up on her feet and say, “PULL IT THE $&@# TOGETHER!!!, everything is going to be fine, I got you babe”
But us modern day men have lost this intuition. We see our girl to freak out, and guess what happens?! WE START TO FREAK OUT TOO!!
We try to figure out what is wrong by ASKING her, and we try to persuade her, and convince her that we are hopeless without her, that we would do anything for her.
We slowly but surely subconsciously convince our girls that we will never be the ROCK that she needs.
We whent on a break, then a break up. I can tell you first hand the advice in this blog are right on, because I freaked out as well t first. Completly out of left field this came, to me I guess.
Yep, it happens to the best of us.
Anyway, I was planning on asking her to marry me. I had the ring and everything. Was going to do it at her family graduation party, but a month befor this crap started goin on.
You’d think that’s what she wanted. But it would just be YOU giving in to HER leading.
This causes her to lose attraction, because she really wants someone to be leading her.
She a good person, not one that lies, cheats, or sleeps around.
Yes, most girls who date a guy for a long time ARE good girls… But we (being the stupid unintuitive men that we are) put them in a desperate situation.
Many guys are shocked that their good girlfriends slept with someone else right after the breakup.
DON’T BE! MOST GIRLS DO… But they were desperate for a leader, they freaked out without one. And good girls, who are freaked out and desperate for a leader will do a lot of things they would normally never do.
They just WILL.
She tells me that she is depressed about everything. She has no clue what she wants to do and is scared to death about working full time lol and that this depression is making her feel hot and cold about us. Sometime she wants me, then she doesn’t.
This is good
She tells me that I’m the only one for her. She wants her babies to be with me, but she’s just not sure about right now.
Awesome!
I beleive her. I’m I being nieve?
No, she is telling the truth. But the trouble is… for some reason she is no longer sure of the truth. Unless you can start being that ROCK of a man that is going to make her feel calm, safe, and in the right place… you are going to make SURE she decides that she was wrong about wanting to be with you.
You have a best case break up scenario. If you read the book I recommend, and follow its advice exactly. I think you have a 98% chance of turning your relationship into whatever you want it to be.
You have an amazing opportunity to SHOW her you are the right guy for her and keep her HOT for you, for as long as you want.
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But you are not going to accomplish this with persuasion, showing her how much you care, talking to her about whats going on, telling her how you have become this strong rock, or any other thing you have likely thought of.
You have to suddenly see what you are currently blind to. You have to see what is REALLY going on in her head.
YOU HAVE TO SEE WHAT EVEN SHE CAN’T SEE… because she doesn’t know why she is freaking out EITHER!
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Can depression really do this to a relationship?
NOPE… not unless YOU are adding to the depression instead of getting rid of it. And from what I read, you are just like me and many other modern day guys that lost touch with the man inside. So, you are partly cause of the depression and were only making it worse.
Seriously, if you were a rock. If you were her safe place. If you were the one that made all the bad stuff go away. SHE WOULD WANT YOU MORE DURING DEPRESSION THAN ANY OTHER TIME.
She says she depressed, but she can still go out with the girls and have a good time. I thought depression mean you can’t move from the couch, let alone go out?
Once again… you were a CAUSE of the depression.
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Seems like when were broken up she wants me and when she with me, not so much.
YES!!! You get back together too soon, and then she goes cold again. You have to make her realize that you are the only one for her BEYOND THE SHADOW OF A DOUBT! you have to get back together the right way, NOT THE FAST WAY.
We went out together this past weekend. Started broken up, I was cool, fun, didn’t hang around a hole lot, kinda di my thing. Made sure she seem me talking to 2 pretty girls, who o interduced them to her as my GF, later. By the next day she wanted me back. So I took her back. Now, she cold again.
you did OK, but it was just too weak. she said she wanted you back, and you said “OK”… you did not make it a challenge to get you back, so now she thinks. “I can have him back whenever I want, I just have to ask, so I will go play on my own for a while”
—she is not thinking this in an evil way… it is just subconsciously in the back of her mind… we are talking human psychology here.
(I’m no doctor and do not claim to be. Take Everything I say with a grain of salt.)
I’m thinking About taking control, in a calm nice way and break ip with her?
I’m torn. I would buy the book I recommend, as it shows you all the signs to look for to know if she is planning another break up. The warning signs are all right on.
If you think she is going to end it. You can make her want you really bad again WITHOUT breaking it off exactly.
Saying, I think with all this goin on I can’t have the ups and downs
-nah… men are suppossed to be rocks that help steady the storm that is shaking the ocean (the ocean is the woman)
, I will be here for you as a friend while you go through this, but not as a boyfriend.
This last sentence is suicide. Stop with the “I’ll be here for you” Just never ever ever use it again. you will be stuck in the friend zone forever.
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Jesse
What do you guys think? Thanks for hearing me out.
Age reference. I’m 26, she’s 23.
Thanks for any advice
You are welcome!
Hey Jesse!
Man! Thank you so much, just for the free advice you gave me. My girl friend just left, well, you called it, ex girlfriend again. But that’s ok, I did exactly what you recomended as she was explaining herself and wow, the look on her face was pricless.
I let the bird go. She quickly started asking me i still loved her and tried kissing me, her attitude totally changed.
Just wanted to say thanks For the advice you gave me.
To the community, Jesse’s the real deal. I’m looking forward to the book and what’s next to get my girl back.
Thanks
Matthew
I got out of a 4 year relationship with my ex, broke up in October. Since then, Ive been getting alot of mixed signals from her. She would be really nice to me, ask me to go out with her. Other times she would be uninterested. When I ignore her, or give no attention she goes crazy after me. The situation is so confusing, she has a boyfriend now. But she sorta acts like I am her boyfriend, and her current boyfriend is in the Philippines. I dont know who is she playing, I just dont understand her. The thing I fear is that she would sleep with the boyfriend in the Philippines, shes leaving in May for a month. She promised me that she would keep this promise until the she got married, and will not never sleep with somebody else. I dont know how to handle this situation, and I want to be able to get her back if it was possible. Please help Jess!