Your goal: Make this song your girl’s song about YOU. It is all about her need for you.
Mindset tip: Just like Shontelle in this video, believe that your ex is thinking: “Nothin’ feels right when I’m not with you,” “I miss you,” and “Now I don’t know if I’m ever gonna let you go.” It is vital that you see yourself as the stronger one. Even if it is not true yet, imagine your ex singing this song.
Make her actually feel like this with The 5 vital steps below.
httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eb-Vfe61W6A
The single most important part of getting your girl back is the ability to achieve these massively important steps.
At first glance they seem simple, but these steps are bigger than they seem, and if you look hard enough, I am giving you massive secrets to getting her back.
Before you read the steps. YOU MUST understand that they all have one thing in common: None of them should be done by use of persuasion or logical techniques that guys like to use so much. This is an emotional situation. And you must not try to do it you own way. Listen to experienced people, who can give you the best chance.
1. Make her uncertain about her decision to break up with you.
2. Make her WONDER what YOU are thinking.
3. Get her to contact you about her fears or worries.
4. Make her realize her mistake (breaking up with you) and see how you are meant for each other.
5. Have her ASK YOU to get back together
Remember, these steps are NOT achieved by persuasion, NOT by logic, and NOT by showing her how much you care.
I know what you are thinking:
“She already made her decision to break up (maybe moved on), and she never second guesses herself. She is real stubborn, and I doubt I could get her to EVER do ANY of these steps”
But the can almost always be achieved if you had a long term relationship, and are not impossible with a short term relationship either. But HOW?
Keep an eye out for 5 new videos with more in depth information on each step, coming soon.
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I’ve been dating my girlfriend for nearly 6.5 years. We started dating in grade 8 (if you can believe it), went all through high school, and have since gone through two years of university at different schools. We have never had any problems and both been extremely happy and in love with each other. This past year we both realized was our BEST year and that we had connected to a whole new level. While we are both only 20, we had begun serious talks about our future. It seemed that we were both very interested in making it work so that we would stay together, get married, and all that. Had we been older or living in the same place I would not have hesitated to ask her to marry me.
When we got home for summer everything changed suddenly. We had made many plans for a great summer that we were planning on sharing with each other. But after the first weekend of being home together, she informed me that she no longer felt like she wanted to be in a relationship. We tried to work things out, and after about a week things were better for about two weeks. She acted like herself again, initiating activities for us to spend time together and intimacy. We planned a camping trip for the upcoming weekend, but when the weekend arrived she told me her feelings were unchanged, despite our past “good 2 weeks”. Feeling like there is nothing else I can do, I have recently given her the space she wants and we are technically broken up. None of my friends, her friends, or either of our families understand her actions. It is completely out of character for her to act this way as everyone knew (and she has told me) that she was extremely happy with our relationship. The only thing I can think of is that she is worried that having never been single before she may be missing out on something. While I understand this, as I am in the exact same situation as her, it doesn’t make sense to get rid of a perfectly good relationship for something you aren’t sure is going to make you feel any better.
Another possibility is that her relationship with me is not the only thing that has changed. I have asked her mom for advice, but she has told me she hasn’t the slightest clue because she doesn’t know who this person is. My girlfriend was always extremely positive and her family was very important to her. Since this summer she has been isolating herself from her family members and is no longer excited in things that she used to love. When things were low between me and her, they were low between her and her family, and that trend was the same when things were looking good between us.
She switched birth control medications last march, and her mom informed me that was when she noticed her daughter pulling away from her and acting very different. Her parents are very convinced that it is her medication that is making her act so out of character. I am really just wondering what to do.
I told her that I love her and she understands that I care a lot about her. I told her that I really want to make it work but I can’t make her love me and that by doing this she runs a huge risk of us never being able to get back together. I need some advice. I have talked to so many people but not yet a neutral party. Any thoughts would be hugely appreciated.
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for nearly 6.5 years. We started dating in grade 8 (if you can believe it), went all through high school, and have since gone through two years of university at different schools. We have never had any problems and both been extremely happy and in love with each other.
Let me say first, that you have an amazing history with this girl, and no guy will be able to replace you, IF, and it’s a big IF, you understand her thoughts, hopes, and worries on a deeper psychological level, than even she does.
You are NOT going to like what I have to say, but if you want this girl back, you will listen to someone who has REAL life experience getting and KEEPING girls back, for himself and lots of clients.
Before you take the advice from friends or family, ask them how many times they got a girl or guy back, and KEPT him or her back for at least a year.
I bet most will say “never”.
That means their advice is nothing more than an opinion, it is not backed by experience, and has no real value in your situation (other than to comfort you)
I’m not here to make you feel good. I am here to GET YOUR GIRL BACK
You cannot take this breakup at face value. You have already made some big mistakes, but you are FAR from hopeless.
In fact, if I could hop inside your body I could give you a 99.9999% guarantee I could get her back, and keep her back!
This past year we both realized was our BEST year and that we had connected to a whole new level. While we are both only 20, we had begun serious talks about our future. It seemed that we were both very interested in making it work so that we would stay together, get married, and all that. Had we been older or living in the same place I would not have hesitated to ask her to marry me.
stop for a moment.
I see that you THOUGHT that the last year was the best year, and you both wanted to be together long term.
But this is your first mistake. YOU got excited about long term, and she got REALLY scared, and played along because she didn’t know what else to do.
I don’t care WHAT she said. She was just trying to be nice, even during the break up.
Your talk about marriage etc, put her under a LOT of pressure and stress, because she WAS NOT READY for that type of unbreakable commitment.
Stop listening to your mind, and stop saying “but she agreed it was the best year, and that she loved me so much”
She DID love you so much, but during the breakup, she was just trying to run away as you continued to suffocate the life out of her.
When we got home for summer everything changed suddenly.
you NOTICED the change suddenly. But it happened slowly over the past year.
people don’t suddenly decide they want to break up. They think about and worry about the relationship and have to build up a LOT of energy and support to go through with a breakup.
It is REALLY hard to build up the courage to break up with someone. ESPECIALLY in your situation, because she is not experienced breaking up with guys all the time.
This was a VERY BIG EVENT that took her a LONG TIME to plan.
We had made many plans for a great summer that we were planning on sharing with each other. But after the first weekend of being home together, she informed me that she no longer felt like she wanted to be in a relationship.
there was no way fir you to know this, but if you immediately said that you agree, and said goodbye without having a “talk” about it. She would be asking for you back in no time.
Buy that’s ok, because that alone would not have KEPT her back either.
We tried to work things out, and after about a week things were better for about two weeks. She acted like herself again, initiating activities for us to spend time together and intimacy. We planned a camping trip for the upcoming weekend, but when the weekend arrived she told me her feelings were unchanged, despite our past “good 2 weeks”.
Yes, she wanted to show you that she tried to make things work, but the truth is, your ability to keep her attracted to you was already gone. That’s what I can help you get back.
Feeling like there is nothing else I can do, I have recently given her the space she wants and we are technically broken up.
How did you go about giving her space? Did you tell her that you will give her the space she wants, but that you are available when she needs you?
I’m guessing you did, and that was mistake number 2.
None of my friends, her friends, or either of our families understand her actions.
Sorry but here is mistake number 3 (none of these mistakes are irreversible, but they have added to the TIME it will take to get her back)
You are violating her trust and her decision by talking with her family and friends about the relationship.
Your relationship is between TWO and ONLY TWO people. The more you talk to her freinds and family about her, the more you are pushing your ex girlfriend away, SO STOP IMMEDIATELY!!!
It is completely out of character for her to act this way as everyone knew (and she has told me) that she was extremely happy with our relationship.
Everyone is wrong, she was happy with you as a person and close friend, but she has lost mist of the attraction she felt for you (I’m pretty sure we can get it back)
The only thing I can think of is that she is worried that having never been single before she may be missing out on something.
This is true but only a side effect if her loss of attraction. If she was still head over heels for you, she would not have such thoughts. You don’t have such thoughts because YOU ARE STILL ATTRACTED to her. Am I wrong?
While I understand this, as I am in the exact same situation as her, it doesn’t make sense to get rid of a perfectly good relationship for something you aren’t sure is going to make you feel any better.
I didn’t think I was wrong. Sorry, but at this point, she doesn’t agree that it’s a perfectly good relationship. (I don’t care what she said man, she was being nice, but no need to lose hope)
Another possibility is that her relationship with me is not the only thing that has changed. I have asked her mom for advice,
Again, this is not your relationship with her mom. This is your relationship with her! Stop talking to people about this. It makes you look like a sick puppy dog. Use me to let out all your suffering and keep your friends and family happy by sticking through this like a trooper instead of a weak little boy.
but she has told me she hasn’t the slightest clue because she doesn’t know who this person is. My girlfriend was always extremely positive and her family was very important to her. Since this summer she has been isolating herself from her family members and is no longer excited in things that she used to love.
College changes everyone. Either you are a part of that change or not. If you try to fight her changing, you will lose her!
In fact, just about everything you have done since the breakup is hurting your chances of getting her back!
Immediately discontinue contact with your ex, AND anyone she has contact with.
Enter your phone number in the form to the right and I will give you a call with even more personalized advice to get you on track to get her, and KEEP her back.
When things were low between me and her, they were low between her and her family, and that trend was the same when things were looking good between us.
She switched birth control medications last march, and her mom informed me that was when she noticed her daughter pulling away from her and acting very different. Her parents are very convinced that it is her medication that is making her act so out of character. I am really just wondering what to do.
Im no doctor, but in my opinion, with no backing or proof, the medication enhanced her emotions at best. I think this is bigger than medication. And if the medication does make her change, we can likely use that in our advantage too.
I told her that I love her and she understands that I care a lot about her. I told her that I really want to make it work but I can’t make her love me and that by doing this she runs a huge risk of us never being able to get back together.
Good, leave her alone and give her the space she wants. Well start a plan of action in our phone call!
I need some advice. I have talked to so many people but not yet a neutral party. Any thoughts would be hugely appreciated.
I am more than neutral. I am experienced in this field. Enter your phone number in the form ASAP
Jesse
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I loved hearing that story hope it had a great ending I’m going through a crisis with my ex hoping I get her back as well.
My partner and I were together for 3 years, we have two children under 2 y.o. I was unfaithful to her and never showed much appreciation for how perfect she was to me and our kids, that was all about a year ago. We got back together after 2 months apart, i stayed with friends interstate. But we never sorted our issues out, i came back to live with her and the kids and we kind of just fell back into it.
2 months ago we had an amazing night together and she expressed how happy she was to be with me and how much she loves me (a rare thing for her as she is not an affectionate type) and the next day she told me she doesn’t want to be with me anymore after an argument in which i was insecure about another man.
I panicked and begged and pleaded and was intrusive and did everything she had ever asked of me, spent a month cleaning, looking after kids, working and pampering her. Slowly but surely she pulld further and further away as i kept bringing it up and trying to persuade her i had changed and to get back with me. three weeks ago she made the split official, although she hid her single status on facebook and told very few people about it. I think she is under a lot of influence over what her friends and family think of me (not good thoughts) and also feels like she doesn’t love me because of how weak i have been since she brought it up. She says she feels like she never loved me and that I just had a lot of influence over her when she was young, and she felt forced into having the kids because i objected abortion although i did leave it up to her. She says even though she has only ever slept with and been with me, that she is definately not looking for a relationship with anybody else for atleast years, and is not interested in anybody sexually. To add to it all, she lost weight and got fake boobs as she has always had an extremely low self esteem, and now she is a different person, confident and empowered. I have added to it by chasing after her recently. Three weeks ago i moved out and told her that i was ok with the seperation as i had read about the no contact rule. I did however see her once a week to see the kids, and i did bring up the subject of us and she told me she still thinks about getting back with me, but only if she sees me looking after myself and being ok alone. I called her and msgd her for company, she gives it most times, although i know that was a mistake. She also wants to remain close friends and is ok with me moving back in and us living together as friends and roommates who have sex on occasion and look after the kids together. I am worried if i refuse friendship or living here that i will lose her forever.
Any advice at all would be a huge help. i have never felt anything so painful. I want to save our family and get her love back.
Please help.